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Just cuz…

Times Online - Because we’re worth it
Who knows best how men can be chivalrous without being sexist? A woman, of course – so Debrett’s asked E. Jane Dickson to write their new guide

A good sign:

Above all, the chivalrous man is a grown-up.

So there you are.

Update:

There’s an editorial. The men’s view:

The Times - Modern Manners
Today’s white knights are in trouble. Women must ride to the rescue

The problem is caused by the rise and rise of the poised modern woman, able without difficulty to pay for meals, carry her own (rather stylish) bags and resourceful enough to step around a puddle rather than wait for a cloak to be laid over it.

Today’s advice to men to cultivate “frisson management” and “light and cerebral” flirting would be marvellous were they able easily to achieve it. More likely, however, women will look on in despair at men’s transparent attempts to achieve sophistication without sexism. Yet for the human race to continue, chivalry must find a new way. It is for the modern woman to find it in her heart to be chivalrous to hapless menfolk.

Ladies, if a timorous gent plucks up the courage to help you with your coat, overlook it when he inadvertently turns it inside out. If he admires your red dress, suppress the urge to point out that it’s actually pink and specially chosen to match the shoes. If he overfills your glass, conclude that he is generous by nature rather than trying to get you legless. Let’s face it, men are dazed and confused by contemporary culture and so it’s inevitable that social theorists should encourage them to regress to an age of chivalry more fictional than functional - then again, more armour could bring more amore.

Sweet, isn’t it.